We all know about the 5 Love Languages. I first heard about them in high school as my mom stumbled upon an article and promptly requested the entire family to fill out the questionnaire to discover their own love language. My sweet and quirky family loves to take surveys on road trips so we can get to know each other better. Fast forward ten years and I am out of high school and long gone from my parent’s roof and rules. But I can still apply these 5 Love Languages to my married life now.
After almost four years of marriage, yes, I know we are still very much newlyweds, I have finally discovered clearly my husband’s love language. It has also taken me time to realize what my own love language is and how I want to be loved. Ironically, the way you show love is not always the way you want to receive love, things have to be complicated don’t they?
So instead of expecting my husband to feel loved when I clean the house, do the laundry, cook a nice meal and dress up, I scratch his back or give him a massage. I show my love through acts of service, but that is not at all how he receives love. All he wants is physical touch, back scratches, massages, hugs, kisses, you get the idea. This helps me from getting upset when he does not notice the clean house or delicious meal. Although he appreciates those actions, it is not what makes him feel special.
I, on the other hand, need lots of words of affirmation. I love letters, and sweet texts, and notes and kind words. I love compliments out of nowhere, especially when I look frumpy and have been home all day in yoga pants. That is how I receive love, and my husband, being a wonderful man, but mostly showing his love through physical touch, has pushed himself to love me through my love language. He has written me notes and texts and sweet letters.
And if you are like me, you quickly forget these sweet words and messages. So I am making a point of writing them down and posting them on this blog. When I am feeling frumpy and down, I can click back to his sweet words and smile. I encourage you to do the same with your love language! Write down the times your husband loved you in the way you receive love as a reminder of your beautiful marriage during gloomy and gray days.